Natural Hair

Solange Knowles

India.Arie

I love my natural hair and I love being able to wear my fro. I think as I look in the mirror that I am rocking my fro hard. I just think I look good but again beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I am beholding myself and seeing a beautiful black woman. I came face to face last night with the fact that not all love my hair the same way that I do. In the words of India.Arie “I Am Not My Hair”. I am just me loud, fiercely loving, creative, intelligent and loyal. Does it make me less of these qualities if I don not wear my hair straightened by a chemical process to make it straight?

I was a bit amazed to think that would make me more attractive gain me love. I have went the route of straightening my fro which added length but I doubt added more love to the one beholding me. I am a big softie who is amazed that someone I love doesn’t find my hair beautiful in its natural state. Hair for women is a major part of personality and style. My hair to me reflects my comfort in myself and the beauty I see in myself.

Why should I conform myself to someone else idea of beauty. I will conform to myself in what I believe is beautiful and love what I see in the mirror. The heck with others expectations of me make them happy I want my happiness first and foremost. It has taken me along time to become comfortable in this skin so I will just enjoy my moments of you look beautiful.

Esperanza Spalding