Gosh, not an easy thing being a good friend which at times I am good and at others the worst. The definition given by Merriam-Webster online is an attachment to another by affection or esteem it could also be a favored companion. Such a simple definition friendship is based on having affection for someone or as when we were children a favored companion. It should hold some give and take, openness, and trust not controlling or pretty at all times.
I think in my search of being perfect I closed my self off and certain situations left me not being able to trust. In which I think I lost one of my very best friends. Unable to share a major crisis that took place in my life that changed me drastically due to my fear of having to open up to my sheer stupidity. All for the farce of keeping face that my life just could "suck as bad as it did!” It proved that I was no where perfect and very human.
I pulled myself hurts and all from friends, family things that I loved. Hide my hurt and dealt with them in the manner that was not health for my self or my friendships. Once I grew from my hurt and pain enough to finally let them in. Life moved on along with them it’s hard not to have my oldest friend not be around. For her not to know my girls not being able to sit and talk while having drinks. It saddens me to have lost a long time friend over my immaturity. That my attempts at reaching out have fallen flat I so suck at being a friend but learning from my errors. Attempt to listen, offer advice once in a while when asked and most of all just be there when needed.
I have been working hard on improving my relationships with others. It just seems easier to handle issues and problems on my own. The past few years I have grown quite a lot allowing others to help reduce my burdens. In the words of my sister “sometimes I just need you to listen and let me vent.” It’s good to have that because the end results of not having that maybe a person ending up crazy. I am trying to retain my sanity so I seek out others these days I trust more in my friendships and myself.